“The fact that an opinion has been widely held is no evidence whatever that it is not utterly absurd.” Betrand Russell.  As a personal development expert these thought help workplace conflict resolution and will increase productivity.

One of the managers stopped him in the hall and congratulated him for understanding the financial decision that the company had to make and for adding a bit of wit to the situation. My friend made the choice not to become a toxic person or create conflict in the workplace! He decided to take personal responsibility for his future.

He has made sound life choices to spur this response:

-       Made good decisions and created financial stability

-       Has a “Plan B” on what he will do next

-       Understood the business situation of the company

-       Knew it was realistic that he may be “RIFed” (reduction in force)

-       Is mentally ready to move to higher ground

-       Doesn’t take himself too seriously

If this were to happen to you, how would you handle it? Or if it did happen to you, how did you handle it?

As the author of Toxic People: Decontaminate Difficult People at Work without using Weapons or Duct tape, I agree with the assessment.  Diffusing the situation quickly with language like, “You may be right. Help me understand . . .” creates an environment that allows people to vent.

Learning to keep your own conflict thinking and mental terrorism in check is also important.  Breathe deeply to get oxygen to your brain is step one.

Then shift from the emotive side of the brain (the right side) to the left side (strategic, focused, and where your language lives) by memorizing a little ditty, prayer, quote or something so when you feel yourself drifting, you can refocus your internal language.

Typically, in the moment of conflict you can’t think of the correct words to say, but an hour later you can. Train yourself to recognize the mental vampires, kill them off, and create a more positive environment and stay in control of the situation.

Check out http://www.ReactorFactorBook.com and download the free documents.  I think you will find them useful as well as the information in the Toxic People book.

Focus on your self-talk so you say, “I choose to or I choose not to, it’s not that I can’t.” You will only stay on the cutting edge if you believe you should be there.

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Kiwano (horned melon) is just plain scary. When I saw it in the store, I thought, “What the heck. I’ll try it,” having no clue what to do with it.  This is what we need to do to find success and add a l

ittle fun.  Try something new, take responsibility for changing your life and challenge your decision making skill. What will you do differently starting tomorrow? After all — it is a new year!

BTW, I put the green stuff from the Kiwano in my smoothie this morning.  Not bad.

I know how to keep my power by maintaining control. I create my own environment that nurtures my success. I am the master of my future, my stress level, and my own behavior.

Happy New Year!  Marsha
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Success is really about personal responsibility.

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays, Marsha

So you think you are thankful this Thanksgiving? My challenge to you and what I will do: write down everything you are thankful for. Your list should have at least 30 entries. Next time life isn’t going too well, or so you think, pull out the list and read it.  Heck, read it every morning. Focus on what is right vs. what is wrong. Do something that will move you forward in a positive manner.

Happy Thanksgiving-Marsha