Maturity is underrated, misunderstood and in a downward spiral. Where will it all end. There is now a new name being given to a disorder that describes people who, in my opinion, don’t use their maturity. It’s called IED or Intermittent Emotional Disorder.
Is this the reason that toxic people and difficult people are on the rise?
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Interesting how lack of maturity and personal responsibility continue to have backers. People and groups who come up with excuses as to why bad behavior and poor choices are not their fault. Now they have another excuse—IED. Intermittent Emotional Disorder is the tag line being used. In the field of psychology, IED really refers to intermittent EXPLOSIVE disorder and is applied to persons who cannot manage their anger, relationships, and/or themselves.
Here is the answer: When you have the urge to tear someone’s throat out, honk your horn or flip someone an unmentionable sign understand that controlling this emotion is a sign of maturity. Here is what mature people do:
- Take a deep breath. This forces the oxygen to your brain so you can think properly. It also eliminates you wanting to put hot pokers in your eyes.
- Pause. Give yourself a chance to think. And if you can’t, admit it and call for a time out. A real sign that you are in control of the situation. It will also give you time to put away the weapons and duct tape.
- Shift to the left-brain where the proper words and actions live. Your right brain kicks in when you are upset and angry. The mental terrorism will spur you on to impulsive deeds and immature actions. Train yourself to count to ten or say, “this is a test, this is only a test. This will not be important in 100 years.†This will help you to stop “awfulizing.â€
Remember you are a role model and people watch your every move. You do it to other people and know they do it to you!
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As a professional speaker and author, Marsha Petrie Sue is the Mohammed Ali of communicators. She can dance and look pretty, and she uses the entire ring, but she knows how and when to land a knockout punch. Get the smelling salts! Her presentations are charm school with live ammunition. She is the author of Toxic People: dealing with difficult people in the workplace without using weapons or duct tape.
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