Communication - Personal Development - Business

Many people are attracted to the stories of Rosie O’Donnell and her abusive behavior because they have a “Rosie” in their life. The viewers of the media coverage may be searching for one drop of analysis that may help them deal with the difficult people in their work place or even at home.

Business Week Magazine has said that one in three working people say they have been yelled at and discouraged by their boss or peers.

Because I study difficult behavior and solutions relentlessly, I think each person faced with a Rosie behavior needs to take personal responsibility for the outcome they desire.

If you have difficult people in your life, and they continue to create havoc in your life, it’s your fault. You must learn to identify their behavior and manage it through your own communication. You can only change yourself so stop trying to change other people. Changing other people does make for great first marriages.

What do you think? Have you got a Rosie in your life?

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Now I’m not a parent (only by marriage) so I am certainly coming at this from a different perspective. Within the last two days, I have been asked by two “Mom’s” how they can make there kid better interact with conflict.

These kids are adult women, who have great jobs (one is an attorney) and obviously well educated. The mom’s want to tell them what to do. My suggestion was to ask their child what kind of outcome they want - the good, bad or ugly. Then to figure out to whom they are talking (communication style) and the approach they have seen work from other people — because obviously their approach is not working.

Go on line - pick up a book at the library - buy something from my shopping cart! LEARN how to manage conflict and toxic people. Difficult people are everywhere and they can suck the life out of you if action is not taken immediately. Back stabbers, whiners, bossy people can all be managered better.

I believe the reason people DON’T take action is because they are lazy and want a magic pill or wand to do it for them. Dad told me — the only two helping hands you will ever have are at the ends of your arms. The Mom’s need to tell their kids that simple rule.

My recommendation was to use my Ask Marsha link on my web site and I will answer them with ideas, considerations and suggestions. I’ll bet you a $1000 that I don’t hear from them!
Let me know what you think…
Marsha

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When we deal with people, difficult or not, I think just being plain old nice is a real bonus. Simple notes of appreciation are deposits into anybody’s emotional bank account. Here is what just happened to me…

My stepson, Al Sue IV, (pictured with his sister Karen) is not a difficult person but he reminded me on Mother’s Day how important it is to let people know how you really feel. Fifteen years ago, I named myself the ESM (Evil Step Mother) which I TRY really hard NOT to be.

Here is the email he sent me:

Marsh ( ESM ), This holiday still means so much to me and Karen and Nana filled that very important role for us for years after our mother passed. I think I can speak for Karen when I say that we both are very proud to have you as our ESM and to fill that void, not only in our lives, but our Fathers life as well.. His picker certainly wasn’t broken when he found you! Yours ??? Well …… Just kidding. I just wanted to drop you a note to say Thanks from all of us You continue to amaze Karen and myself on your ability to handle our Dad and, at the same time, make him very happy as well ! We believe in Angels and we thank them everyday for those in our lives. THANKS AGAIN ! HAPPY ESM DAY ! LOVE YA ! Al

Now is that cool or what. Here is my recommendation - just be nice and when you have the chance, let someone know you care.

Marsha

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I really am tired of people being just plain nasty. Difficult people can ruin an otherwise great day. My patience was tried once again when trying to communicate to “web support” at US Airways. I simply asked if she were the customer, would her answer be satisfactory? Sarcastically she said, “No, but that’s the way it is.” Not too bad, until she completed her thought out loud with, “You’ll have to do it my way.” Yikes, I almost came through the phone. When will businesses realize that clients and customers vote with their feet?

Do you wee anything in the future wave of customer service training that may help? What do you do when someone really angers you? Marsha

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